Monday, July 09, 2007

anniversary

Apparently, my anniversary was on Shabbos. I found out Friday afternoon about an hour before shabbos (when my mother called to wish me a happy anniversary) and I couldn't even go out and get my wife flowers because all the stores were closed. In my defense, nobody bothered to remind me.
10 years.
I've been with my wife for almost 1/3 of my life.
One question that people ask married people is what they think is the most important aspect in a marriage.
The answers that I have heard include the following:
  • communication.
  • who controls the money
  • individuality
  • common goals
  • food
  • sex
What I have found most interesting is that husbands and wives very often come up with exact opposites of what is the most important. For example, I believe that the most important thing in a marriage is not to hate your spouse. My wife believes that it is love. (I am more practical.) I have heard wives say that communication is the most important thing while the husbands say, it's better when we don't talk. Personally, communication does not rank on my list of relevant things about a marriage.

Anyways, we went out to a fancy restaurant last night to celebrate the occasion, Decks in Tiberias. There we feasted on lamb ribs, lamb steak and lamb kabob. For drinks we had the lemonana slushies and for dessert the pancake. The drink and the pancake were more then 1/3 of the bill. I would recommend to anyone going, to forgo dessert and drink water. If you are still hungry have another piece of steak for 35 shekel.

After dinner we headed down to the kibbutz lavi hotel for what has become an annual tradition. No silly. We visited people there. We actually got 2 for the price of one, because while we were sitting down and shmoozing (My spell checker says shmooze has a c in it, but what does it know) , Rabbi J walked in and sat down with us, which was a big surprise for both of us.
It's always fun watching rabbis network.

2 comments:

Cosmic X said...

"What I have found most interesting is that husbands and wives very often come up with exact opposites of what is the most important. For example, I believe that the most important thing in a marriage is not to hate your spouse. My wife believes that it is love. (I am more practical.) I have heard wives say that communication is the most important thing while the husbands say, it's better when we don't talk. Personally, communication does not rank on my list of relevant things about a marriage."

That is funny!

Rafi G. said...

I agree - by us too, the more we talk the worse it gets! though she thinks we do not communicate enough. then when we do and she insists I offer my opinion on something, instead of talking about it she gets upset that I think x is better than y